Disturb Another Day

It takes 8 days to get DO NOT DISTURB facility activated on Idea.....till then get Disturb Another Day...

I am reading right now! "BUILDING YOUR SELF-ESTEEM"

Crises of self-esteem are a part of the human experience. When you feel troubled by low self-esteem, review the suggestions below and choose those that are relevant to your situation and work on them.

1. Free yourself from " shoulds". Live your life on the basis of what is possible for you and what feels right to you instead of what you or others think you "should" do. " Shoulds" distract us from identifying and fulfilling our own needs, abilities, interests and personal goals. Find out what you want and what you are good at, value those, and take actions designed to fulfill your potential.

2. Respect your own needs. Recognize and take care of your own needs and wants first. Identify what really fulfills you — not just immediate gratifications. Respecting your deeper needs will increase your sense of worth and well-being.

3. Set achievable goals. Establish goals on the basis of what you can realistically achieve, and then work step-by-step to develop your potential. To strive always for perfectionist, absolute goals — for example, "Anything less than an A in school is always unacceptable" — invites stress and failure.

4. Talk to yourself positively. Stop listening to your "cruel inner critic." When you notice that you are doubting or judging yourself, replace such thoughts with self-accepting thoughts, balanced self-assessment and self-supportive direction.

5. Test your reality. Separate your emotional reactions — your fears and bad feelings — from the reality of your current situation. For example, you may feel stupid, anxious and hopeless about a project, but if you think about it, you may still have the ability and opportunity to accomplish something in it.

6. Experience success. Seek out and put yourself in situations in which the probability of success is high. Look for projects which stretch — but don't overwhelm — your abilities. "Image" yourself succeeding. Whatever you accomplish, let yourself acknowledge and experience success and good feelings about it.

7. Take chances. New experiences are learning experiences which can build self-confidence. Expect to make mistakes as part of the process; don't be disappointed if you don't do it perfectly. Feel good about trying something new, making progress and increasing your competence.

8. Solve problems. Don't avoid problems, and don't moil about them. Face them, and identify ways to solve them or cope with them. If you run away from problems you can solve, you threaten your self-confidence.

9. Make decisions. Practice making and implementing positive decisions flexibly but firmly, and trust yourself to deal with the consequences. When you assert yourself, you enhance your sense of yourself, learn more, and increase your self-confidence.

10. Develop your skills. Know what you can and can't do. Assess the skills you need; learn and practice those.

11. Emphasize your strengths. Focus on what you can do rather than what you cannot. Accept current limitations and live comfortably within them, even as you consider what strengths you might want or need to develop next.

12. Rely on your own opinion of yourself. Entertain feedback from others, but don't rely on their opinions. Depend on your own values in making decisions and deciding how you feel about yourself and what is right for you to do.

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Just what I dont want it, But I have to take it.

Sab suna suna laage

All the blogs I used to follow are in some kind of limbo these days. Even the otherwise reliable Random Thoughts of demented mind posted 3 weeks back. Is it some kind of virus spreading across.

I watched contagion few weeks back, they called blogging , 'graffity with punctuation' I liked it :)
But blogging is fun...even more when someone read it (besides you ofcorse)

So all my fellow bloggers, keep writing...

Jasuku don't stop writing

And a month passed without a post, very very very rarely that happened in last year or so. Why did that happen?
Change of Place?
Change of Project?
Change of People?

Well mix of all, or may be it's just ME.

I used to write about things that I like, but looking at my couple of past posts made me realize that I am spending more time on things I hate.

Today, I read on Jasuku's post http://adamdiaries.blogspot.com/ that he is taking a sabbatical from writing. Sue,  just be hopelessly lazy and irregular on your posts, but do not make it official.

You Know, that your tale of three cities is inspiration for me to start writing (perhaps for Prabha too) And your today's post again made me to write this post [after llllllllong time]

Please Please Please do not stop writing....